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Telling your kids........

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  • Telling your kids........

    When to a car vs. semi crash yesterday afternoon. Kid driving the car did not make it.

    I thought at first that I did not know the kid, someone said he was and out of stater, but that was not the case. Local hometown kid it turns out.

    Found out this morning that he was my daughter's swim coach for two years. Not good news.

    She is only 7 but never forgets anyone or anything, so I am inclined to tell her that he was killed. I have no doubt that she will ask where his is next summer, maybe before that. She loved the kid, and always looked forward to seeing him at ball games and swim lessons. She would search for him until she found him type of thing.

    My wife would rather not tell her, I mean she is 7 and all that. My problem is that she is very smart and I think she is going to find out anyway, sooner or later.

    She lives on a farm and knows about life and death, been to a couple of funerals too, including her great grandmother whom she adored.

    What do youse guys think? Should I let her find out on her own, maybe she wont ever find out? I kinda doubt it.

    I know I cant tell her anything about the wreck, but she knows that I went.

    Do you think I should tell her?
    The fire service is about service to our fellow man.
    There is a trust that must not be broken and we are the keepers of that trust.
    Captain Dave LeBlanc

  • #2
    I'd tell her. just on the off chance she hears it somewhere else. It's way too hard to shield them with the technology level we have. Her age may shield her somewhat but she may have friends/classmates who will hear it from their older siblings. News about death travels at an incredible pace for some reason.


    • #3
      Would you tell her if you were NOT on the fire department? I'd let that be my guide.

      I tend to agree with Capnjak


      • #4
        And (even though it might not have been a factor) reinforce why you always want her to wear her seat belt.


        • #5
          Tell her. It will be better for her to deal with her emotions with you and your wife in a comfortable setting than finding out on the playground or where ever and not know how to react or reacting hysterically.
          Crazy, but that's how it goes
          Millions of people living as foes
          Maybe it's not too late
          To learn how to love, and forget how to hate


          • #6
            Well, I never got the chance.

            I have mentioned before that I live near a small town, so news travels fast you know.

            Not too bad this time. Once word got out they asked all of the ministers in town to come to the schools once the teachers made the announcement to the classes. The ministers then answered questions that the small kids had. They had councilors available for the bigger kids.

            The school seemed to handle the situation pretty well. My daughter has some questions, but nothing too serious.

            Pretty fair job I would say.
            The fire service is about service to our fellow man.
            There is a trust that must not be broken and we are the keepers of that trust.
            Captain Dave LeBlanc


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