special treatment

[summermist21FD]

not sure weather or not this has been a specific post or not.
but have any of you ever dealt when a parent or gaurdian is a high ranking officer, and a son/daughter/whatever is a junior/explorer/cadet to where they begin to step all over you, just because of who there parent/legal gaurdian is? if so, how did you deal with it.. if not, how would you deal with it..





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[summermist21FD]

might i add in a politically correct way

[backsteprescue123]

Ummm, not really. Those people tend to have more experience or knowledge out of the chute than the average beaver, but it is not always the case.

[summermist21FD]

Ummm, not really. Those people tend to have more experience or knowledge out of the chute than the average beaver, but it is not always the case.

thank you for your response.
& stay safe

[jerry4184]

i basically looked at him, laughed, put my pack on, and went into the fire he couldn't. He hasn't said much to me after that. Our biggest problem hasnt been with jrs with senior members as parents walking over black hats, so much as walking over their parent, and getting special privelages. But it hasn't happened too much, and it's usually no big deal.

[summermist21FD]

i basically looked at him, laughed, put my pack on, and went into the fire he couldn't. He hasn't said much to me after that. Our biggest problem hasnt been with jrs with senior members as parents walking over black hats, so much as walking over their parent, and getting special privelages. But it hasn't happened too much, and it's usually no big deal.

oh yeah. true.
well thanks for the reply &
stay safe.

[the1141man]

might i add in a politically correct way

Ohhhh...a politically correct way...important thing to specify, there.

Let's see...politically correct way....

Oh, yeah: Quit. Find another department.

That's about the only "politically correct" way to handle it.

The reason I say this is because if the son/daughter was mature, they wouldn't be throwing their "weight" around. If the chief officer parent was mature and caught wind of their kid pulling crap, they'd step on them so hard they'd be defecating vital organs for a week.
Beings as a good chief/line officer knows all that goes on in their Company/station, the parent probably has some idea of what their kid is doing.
Silence gives consent--therefore any attempt, no matter how polite, to address the matter with the cadet or chief officer will likely be met with hostility (even if veiled) and probably retaliation, as well.

Then again, I'm not a big believer in political correctness, especially in the firehouse... so my solution would be very blunt: Next time the kid tries to give you undeserved crap or throw weight around that he doesn't have, point at his collar and ask him where his bugles are. When he responds that he doesn't have any, say "Exactly," and leave him there to ponder the point you just made.

That's the nice version, anyways.

The situation recalls to me an old "military urban legend": some years ago at an unnamed Air Force base, the 1-star commanding the base began to hear rumors and complaints from the civilian and enlisted workers on-base that the base officers' wives were behaving very rudely and being snide to them.
To settle the matter, the 1-star called all of the base officers' wives together in the base theatre for a meeting.
As they all filed in, the 1-star came in and asked them to seat themselves according to rank. Immediately, a squabble broke out among who should sit in the front row, 2nd row, etc... "My husband's a Major," said one, "Well mine's a Colonel," scoffed another... as all this was going on, the General roared "SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP!"
The chagrined women did as they were told, and the General addressed those who took seats in the back rows without argument, saying, "Those of you who quietly took seats in the back are in the right. Those who fought for the front rows, you are wrong. It is your husband that wears the rank, not you. Dismissed."
And with that, he turned and walked away to a shocked-silent audience of AF spouses.

The moral of the story: like the General said, your husband/dad/mother/brother/cousin/whoever wears the rank, not you.

I suppose you could try telling that story to the Chief or his/her kid, but somehow, I think the point would be missed.

[summermist21FD]

Ohhhh...a politically correct way...important thing to specify, there.

Let's see...politically correct way....

Oh, yeah: Quit. Find another department.

That's about the only "politically correct" way to handle it.

The reason I say this is because if the son/daughter was mature, they wouldn't be throwing their "weight" around. If the chief officer parent was mature and caught wind of their kid pulling crap, they'd step on them so hard they'd be defecating vital organs for a week.
Beings as a good chief/line officer knows all that goes on in their Company/station, the parent probably has some idea of what their kid is doing.
Silence gives consent--therefore any attempt, no matter how polite, to address the matter with the cadet or chief officer will likely be met with hostility (even if veiled) and probably retaliation, as well.

Then again, I'm not a big believer in political correctness, especially in the firehouse... so my solution would be very blunt: Next time the kid tries to give you undeserved crap or throw weight around that he doesn't have, point at his collar and ask him where his bugles are. When he responds that he doesn't have any, say "Exactly," and leave him there to ponder the point you just made.

That's the nice version, anyways.

The situation recalls to me an old "military urban legend": some years ago at an unnamed Air Force base, the 1-star commanding the base began to hear rumors and complaints from the civilian and enlisted workers on-base that the base officers' wives were behaving very rudely and being snide to them.
To settle the matter, the 1-star called all of the base officers' wives together in the base theatre for a meeting.
As they all filed in, the 1-star came in and asked them to seat themselves according to rank. Immediately, a squabble broke out among who should sit in the front row, 2nd row, etc... "My husband's a Major," said one, "Well mine's a Colonel," scoffed another... as all this was going on, the General roared "SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP!"
The chagrined women did as they were told, and the General addressed those who took seats in the back rows without argument, saying, "Those of you who quietly took seats in the back are in the right. Those who fought for the front rows, you are wrong. It is your husband that wears the rank, not you. Dismissed."
And with that, he turned and walked away to a shocked-silent audience of AF spouses.

The moral of the story: like the General said, your husband/dad/mother/brother/cousin/whoever wears the rank, not you.

I suppose you could try telling that story to the Chief or his/her kid, but somehow, I think the point would be missed.

thats a pretty awesome urban legend, i'll keep it in my mind
but thanks so much for the advice.
i really apprechiate it.

[CPMiller]

the1141man -- good non-politically correct advice and urban legend.

summermist21fd -- I have a similar stituation. Without going into the long story and all the details - My only fellow Junior is the Assistant Chief's son, the Chief's nephew, and a career firefighter's step-son. Even though I am older, have more experience, been on the department longer, and have more certifications, hence more rank; he is allowed to do more than I. How do I deal with it? I hold my head high, smile, and keep my mouth shut. When I am told to sweep the bay or wash windows; while he gets to work with the extrication equipment (technically he doesn't have enough rank to do this) I do it without complaint. It can be hard at times, but showing I am willing to help wherever needed is slowly paying off. Don't give up, and if you want to talk to someone who has been there doing that feel free to PM me. Congrats on starting fire school! Stay safe.

[summermist21FD]

the1141man -- good non-politically correct advice and urban legend.

summermist21fd -- I have a similar stituation. Without going into the long story and all the details - My only fellow Junior is the Assistant Chief's son, the Chief's nephew, and a career firefighter's step-son. Even though I am older, have more experience, been on the department longer, and have more certifications, hence more rank; he is allowed to do more than I. How do I deal with it? I hold my head high, smile, and keep my mouth shut. When I am told to sweep the bay or wash windows; while he gets to work with the extrication equipment (technically he doesn't have enough rank to do this) I do it without complaint. It can be hard at times, but showing I am willing to help wherever needed is slowly paying off. Don't give up, and if you want to talk to someone who has been there doing that feel free to PM me. Congrats on starting fire school! Stay safe.

CPMiller - thanks much for the advice
I really apprechiate it.
It's great to know that i'm not the only one, who gets somewhat distracted from this subject.
I will probally end up Messaging you about something lol.
But once again thanks much
Stay Safe as well!

[AustinFink]

I am the son of a Lt. and personally I think that it puts more pressure on me to be better. I think the only reason I might get "special treatment" is because mostly the "old timers" know that I know my stuff. My advice to you is to study up on your materials and show your higher ranking officers that you know what you are doing.

[FLexplorer305]

special treatment

The only thing i can tell you is that explorers that are related to Firefighters, think that they shouldnt get special treatment. But I certainly believe that if your gonna have special treatment for one you should have it for all, for example the old Lt. we had at my post made Lt. because he was related to a firefighter. He had bunker gear before all of the explorers and he was allowed to do much more things than other explorers. Also we had a problem because he thought he was a firefighter. He always argued with the other advisers and he never listened to them when they told him to do things. When the other advisors told us to wash the truck , and clean the station, he never did any of the assigned jobs. So I believe "Special Treatment for one, Special Treatment for all".

GodBless,
Stay safe

[the1141man]

the1141man -- good non-politically correct advice....

That's about the only kind I'm good for... I don't play politics, nor do I brook much BS. My personal opinion is that politics shouldn't have a place in the firehouse, save for occasionally buttering up some legislator for more $$.

Sorry I don't have anything more "useful" to the situation, Summer, but the fact is that if the chief knows and lets the kid get away with it, there's really little you can do to remedy the situation, especially within the confines of "politically correct".

[summermist21FD]

That's about the only kind I'm good for... I don't play politics, nor do I brook much BS. My personal opinion is that politics shouldn't have a place in the firehouse, save for occasionally buttering up some legislator for more $$.

Sorry I don't have anything more "useful" to the situation, Summer, but the fact is that if the chief knows and lets the kid get away with it, there's really little you can do to remedy the situation, especially within the confines of "politically correct".

hahaha,
it's all good.
thanks much.
stay safe.

[Mihlrad]

My lt. and his brother's father is an ex-chief, during the time the father was chief, he suspended both of them, they treated him as a chief at the firehouse and he treated them no different then anyone else. Thats how it should be. And right now, the older of the 2 is the Lt. he treats his brother the same as everyone.

If someone is clearly acting superior due to a family member, talk to the family member who is high in rank. A high ranking man should know better then to allow that to happen.